Life is not about winning and losing - it's about learning. When you fall down, you pick yourself up and note where the pot-hole was so you can walk around it the next time. A person who has gone "too far" knows just how far they can go. No "winners - and - losers", just "winners - and - learners" (CNVC).
Recently I experienced a small disagreement with my team-teacher about the lesson plans. I truly appreciate the way we work together, but once I have my plans down and know what I’m going to do the next week, that’s what I want to do. Well on Monday morning she wants to “what I said reinvent the wheel”. I will have my copies and books pulled and she decides she wants to do something different it drives me crazy. Two strategies that may help me resolve my emotions and resolutions are: make observations not evaluation of the situation by identifying specific behaviors and conditions (CRNHQ). I should not jump to conclusions before observing the outcome of changing the plans. Another strategy that would help in this situation would be cooperative. A strategy that benefits the relationship, serves mutual rather than personal goals, and strives to produce solutions that benefit both parties (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2009, p. 212). I think I have intertwined my channels of communication in my own mind not looking at the big picture and being unfair to my co-worker. But, she should compromise and communicate with me, so I can adjust to the changes. I know this should not irritate me, but it does. I need to be cooperative and willing to look beyond my wants to help resolve this small issue between us.
Resolving issues, challenges, opportunities: How we respond to conflict is a life learned habit through our culture. Life is a learning development, not a game. It’s not about winning or losing.
Resource:
O’Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2009). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s
Retrieved: http://www.crnhq.org/pages.php?pID=12#skill_3
Retrieved: http://www.cnvc.org/Training/NVC-Concepts
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