Saturday, August 4, 2012

So Sexy So Soon


For this Blog assignment, share your thoughts about the topic of the sexualization of early childhood:
I have a difficult time observing our youth demonstrating and participating in sexualization and the messages they are receiving at such young ages.  They are being robbed of their innocent childhoods. 
 I agree with statements made by Levin and Kilbourne (2009), “Both boys and girls are routinely exposed to images of sexual behavior devoid of emotions, attachment, or consequences. They learn that sex is the defining activity in relationships, to the exclusion of love and friendship. They learn that sex is often linked to violence. And they learn to associate physical appearance and buying the right products not only with being sexy but also with being successful as a person. Such lessons will shape their gender identity, sexual attitudes, and values, and their capacity for relationships, for love and connection,  that they take into adulthood”.
Three experiences I have witnessed that have impacted my thoughts:

My God-daughter has posted pictures of herself displaying an older sexy attitude on her face book.  She is eleven years old. I told her mother I disagreed with the photos, but mom said no harm was done and she thought they were cute.  Really?
Last year I had a four year old boy and he was totally obsessed with Bachiman?  action figures. The only way we could get him to communicate with us was to talk this action figure talk. I was clueless.  I had to talk with mom and she said it was just a phase he was going through.
As I walk down the hall ways I observe 3rd, 4th, and 5th grade girls dressed in what I would refer to as party clothes not every day little girl school clothes.  We have dress codes but parents seem to overlook what is appropriate for school.
Children have always been curious about gender differences.  They should be taught healthy age appropriate differences and as they grow and learn about sexual behaviors they should be taught about safe sex (old-school) and relationships. What worries me is what they are being exposed to sex and violence at young ages without being taught consequences. The sexualization of childhood is having a profoundly disturbing impact on children’s understanding of gender, sexuality, and relationships (Levine & Kilbourne, 2009).  
Just my thoughts:  I blame these exposures to lack of parenting skills and media advertising.   Everywhere you look you see advertisements for new action figures which represent violence.   One show that I know we are all familiar with is “Toddlers and Tiaras”.  I have really mixed emotions about this show.  Personally, I think it’s just a bit much.  And I ask myself: Who is it about the little ones or their moms?
Reference: Levin, D. E., & Kilbourne, J. (2009). [Introduction]. So sexy so soon: The new sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect their kids (pp. 1-8). New York: Ballantine Books. Retrieved from: http://dianeelevin.com/sosexysosoon/introduction.pdf

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